For some divorced New Jersey families, the holidays may include having the children move from one house to another so that both parents can have some time with the kids. If the divorced parents cannot agree on how to split their parenting time during the holidays, it can become very stressful for both the children and the adults involved.
Part of the problem is that many parents want to have their kids on the same days. However, this is often not possible. In order for both parents to get their holiday parenting time, some parents will alternate the years so they have their kids every other year. For parents who can communicate well with each other, splitting the holidays may be another option. By sharing the holidays, the kids have to the opportunity to visit with both sides of the family without drama.
It is important to keep in mind that, even if one parent does not have their kids one year, they can still make the time that they do get to spend with them just as special. By being able to negotiate with the ex-spouse, the parent can prevent fights, drama and incidents that could have a negative impact on the children.
If both parents can work together, they may have the ability to negotiate their own parenting schedule through mediation. This allows both parents to be more flexible around their work and potentially allows them to have more of a presence in the children’s everyday lives. However, an attorney may help a parent create a parenting plan if the other parent refuses to negotiate. The attorney may work to make sure that the parent is allotted time with the children during certain holidays and other important days in the children’s lives.