For New Jersey couples who are getting a divorce, there is often acrimony. Lingering issues between the spouses can make the process more difficult than it needs to be. Despite the temptation to make negative comments to and about the spouse during divorce, there are several reasons why this should be avoided.
Although making pointed statements might feel like an emotional release, there are benefits to not doing so. The end of a marriage is inherently stressful. These stressors can be reduced if the parties are agreeable to negotiation. Having courtesy, respect and understanding can be a solid foundation to a successful resolution. Property division can be contentious, and starting fights at inopportune times such as when the other person is at work will worsen tensions. Any public squabble will complicate the case and could also be used in court proceedings.
One of the most difficult aspects of a divorce is child custody. The court will generally focus on the best interests of the child. Parents should be prepared to show the court that the child will take precedence and that problems between the parents will be pushed aside. Speaking negatively about the other parent, even in a seemingly innocuous way, can be damaging. This is especially true with social media posts. Parents should not put the child in the middle and do their best to keep the child’s needs ahead of their own.
Resisting the temptation to engage in bickering or outright fighting during the case can be difficult. Still, it is wise to do so. When former partners are getting a divorce, legal assistance may be crucial to coming to an acceptable settlement. Whether that is through mediation or by going through the court process, a law firm experienced in all aspects of divorce may be able to help.