No one -- particularly couples with kids -- wants a messy, combative divorce, but sometimes it happens. Maybe your soon-to-be-ex isn't handling the break-up well and always seems to be picking fights. Maybe the two of you are nowhere close to agreeing on things like property division, support, child custody and other issues, and that impacts your interactions.
When divorcing spouses can't reach an agreement on their own regarding how child custody will be divided, a judge has to make that decision. That often results in parents trying to prove their level of involvement in their children's lives by going to extremes that aren't in their children's best interests.
If you're a parent who's going to be divorcing, you want your children to experience as little disruption in their lives as possible. That means continuing with their extracurricular activities. Whether it's soccer, martial arts, music or theater, these activities can help them grow in to well-rounded adults.
As a separated or divorced parent, you know that you shouldn't criticize your co-parent in front of your children. Your ex likely knows it too. But your kids sometimes mention that their mom or dad said something negative or hurtful about you or your parenting. Maybe the harsh words are coming from a grandparent or someone else on the other side of the family or from one of your ex's friends. What do you do?
Maybe you'd already begun divorce proceedings when you found out there was a baby on the way. Perhaps you and your spouse knew you were going to be parents, but you also knew that you couldn't remain married. Whatever the situation, divorcing while one of the spouses is pregnant can be a highly emotional experience.
It's not common, but some parents choose a "split custody" arrangement when they divorce. This is when each parent has sole physical custody of one or more of their children. Sometimes, divorced parents will switch an existing child custody arrangement to split custody because circumstances have changed that they believe warrant it.
If you're a divorcing parent who has struggled with substance abuse, you're not alone. It's one of the most common reasons that people divorce.
Some New Jersey parents may be familiar with the term "parental alienation". First described by a child psychiatrist in the 1980s, it originally referred to what he saw as a rash of false claims by divorced mothers that the father of their children was sexually abusing them. In his view, many of these mothers were attempting to alienate their children from their fathers. While the claim appears now in gender-neutral contexts, some experts say there is no science behind it and that it can lead to children being placed with abusive parents in custody battles.
In most situations, parents in New Jersey who get a divorce must also work out a plan for co-parenting. Co-parenting can be one of the most difficult parts of a divorce, but it is important to children's well-being.
When New Jersey parents decide to divorce, they may determine a temporary custody agreement while a permanent child custody order is being decided. These types of temporary orders can be determined by a court in the best interests of the child. While this is the most common use of temporary custody orders, there are other reasons why a child may be placed temporarily in the custody of a party other than the parents. For example, parents who are unable to afford care for their child may want to provide temporary legal custody to a grandparent, aunt, uncle or other relative, along with the legal authority to make decisions for the child.